Comments on: Inner Resistance or Don't Forget The Families http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/ Military Blog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:50:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Flopping Aces » Blog Archive » Flopping Aces Writer Major Chris Galloway Dead at 36 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51249 Flopping Aces » Blog Archive » Flopping Aces Writer Major Chris Galloway Dead at 36 Thu, 13 Aug 2009 16:28:31 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51249 [...] moment of pause he needed to get him through. I had seen CJ’s post in March; around June or July, CJ himself came to grips with his own need to reach out for professional help and was diagnosed [...] [...] moment of pause he needed to get him through. I had seen CJ's post in March; around June or July, CJ himself came to grips with his own need to reach out for professional help and was diagnosed [...]

]]> By: The Kichen Dispatch (Kanani) http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51080 The Kichen Dispatch (Kanani) Sat, 01 Aug 2009 18:26:06 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51080 Hi, I'm so glad you did this. I think going to the first one is harder. Making the commitment to stick with it for a long period of time is the next hurdle you will have to clear. In other words, you must go back. Eventually, I hope you will make it a family thing to help all of you learn new ways to cope with stress. I've been working with mental health issues on behalf of my autistic son for years. In addition, I married into a crazy family, hence, ended up with a lot of confusion about their vast field of depression. There's a reason I put the <a href="http://www.nami.org" rel="nofollow">NAMI</a> widget at the very top of my <a href="http://kitchendispatch.blogpost.com" rel="nofollow">blog. </a> NAMI is free. It's open to caretakers as well as those with issues. It's in most communities. I can't tell you how much support this Saturday group has been. They even do things like work with police departments to tell the cops how to respond to a mental health 911 calls. I know from years of toiling that the stigma against mental health will only be toppled when more "suck it up" or "life is just a shopping trip" types get on the ball and walk the talk. That is, going to get help, putting the word out about resources, and most of all --encouraging the families to partake in the process of therapy as well. I'm very very proud of you. And proud of Emily for helping your through this. My best to all. Hi,
I'm so glad you did this. I think going to the first one is harder. Making the commitment to stick with it for a long period of time is the next hurdle you will have to clear. In other words, you must go back. Eventually, I hope you will make it a family thing to help all of you learn new ways to cope with stress.

I've been working with mental health issues on behalf of my autistic son for years. In addition, I married into a crazy family, hence, ended up with a lot of confusion about their vast field of depression.

There's a reason I put the NAMI widget at the very top of my blog.

NAMI is free. It's open to caretakers as well as those with issues. It's in most communities. I can't tell you how much support this Saturday group has been. They even do things like work with police departments to tell the cops how to respond to a mental health 911 calls.

I know from years of toiling that the stigma against mental health will only be toppled when more "suck it up" or "life is just a shopping trip" types get on the ball and walk the talk. That is, going to get help, putting the word out about resources, and most of all –encouraging the families to partake in the process of therapy as well.

I'm very very proud of you. And proud of Emily for helping your through this.
My best to all.

]]> By: flyonthewall http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51059 flyonthewall Thu, 30 Jul 2009 02:44:26 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51059 Excellent and a truly valuable example to your men. There are so many different styles of counseling, I'm very interested in what works for who. I guess I'm suggesting that if it doesn't feel right with your first counselor, shop around. I understand that "Give an Hour" is under utilized and offers insulation from military records, etc. Would welcome a chance to hear how it goes for you. We have a "friend" in common. Excellent and a truly valuable example to your men. There are so many different styles of counseling, I'm very interested in what works for who. I guess I'm suggesting that if it doesn't feel right with your first counselor, shop around. I understand that "Give an Hour" is under utilized and offers insulation from military records, etc.
Would welcome a chance to hear how it goes for you. We have a "friend" in common.

]]> By: membrain http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51058 membrain Wed, 29 Jul 2009 16:07:24 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51058 CJ, I know this was not an easy decision. I heard you talk about it on You Served Radio. All the best to you and your family. Thanks for all the things you do. CJ, I know this was not an easy decision. I heard you talk about it on You Served Radio. All the best to you and your family. Thanks for all the things you do.

]]> By: Arli http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51056 Arli Wed, 29 Jul 2009 13:45:32 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51056 You are stronger than you think you are, and you can do this. Just wanted to let you know you have my support. You are stronger than you think you are, and you can do this. Just wanted to let you know you have my support.

]]> By: John Coffey http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51046 John Coffey Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:43:18 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51046 I know you had your resons for deleting the last post, but I thought it was excellant. I know you had your resons for deleting the last post, but I thought it was excellant.

]]> By: NY-David http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51042 NY-David Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:53:59 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51042 CJ, I haven't walked your road, but have been through my own trials and I know the value of the family. I'm praying for you to keep on walking. You're not only helping yourself, but those that follow you. NY-David "Your Favorite Liberal" CJ,
I haven't walked your road, but have been through my own trials and I know the value of the family. I'm praying for you to keep on walking. You're not only helping yourself, but those that follow you.
NY-David
"Your Favorite Liberal"

]]> By: Susan Katz Keating http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51041 Susan Katz Keating Mon, 27 Jul 2009 16:05:19 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51041 C.J., It must have been very difficult for you to make the decision to seek help, and it must been a hard topic to write about. I am the daughter of a PTSD-afflicted Korean War vet. He did not seek help - in those days, nobody did. My father did not survive his PTSD. It has taken me more than 30 years to find the courage to address this from my own perspective. You have shown great courage now, while your children and wife have you. Prayers and blessings to you and your family. C.J.,

It must have been very difficult for you to make the decision to seek help, and it must been a hard topic to write about. I am the daughter of a PTSD-afflicted Korean War vet. He did not seek help – in those days, nobody did. My father did not survive his PTSD. It has taken me more than 30 years to find the courage to address this from my own perspective. You have shown great courage now, while your children and wife have you. Prayers and blessings to you and your family.

]]> By: Doc Hal http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51038 Doc Hal Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:34:56 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51038 WTF does that mean? WTF does that mean?

]]> By: Doc Hal http://www.soldiersperspective.us/2009/07/25/inner-resistance-or-dont-forget-the-families/#comment-51037 Doc Hal Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:33:18 +0000 http://www.soldiersperspective.us/?p=5479#comment-51037 CJ - You and I are acquainted but not what I would call friends...but you are a brother. I will give you and your readers a little "background." As a Vietnam vet, I can tell you that PTSD was basically unknown during that period. It was called shell shock and those who suffered from it were called pussies. We sucked it up (if we could, and I did) or told it to a priest (chaplin). It cost me my wife and children ('cause I was a TOTAL asshole) and my children and I did not see each other for over 30 years. To this day, I have nights when I'm VERY vocal, although not violent, and my wife sleeps on the couch as well. Much, no, most of this I will not remember the next morning, and there have been times when I have done or said some ugly shit. Go for it, brother. Don't end up at 60+ as a vet addicted to booze and cigarettes like me. While I'm functional, it still ain't pretty. I just sucked it up and you know me well enough to know that I told a ranger one time to tell his problems to a priest 'cause I had problems of my own and didn't want to deal with his. Doc CJ – You and I are acquainted but not what I would call friends…but you are a brother. I will give you and your readers a little "background." As a Vietnam vet, I can tell you that PTSD was basically unknown during that period. It was called shell shock and those who suffered from it were called pussies. We sucked it up (if we could, and I did) or told it to a priest (chaplin). It cost me my wife and children ('cause I was a TOTAL asshole) and my children and I did not see each other for over 30 years. To this day, I have nights when I'm VERY vocal, although not violent, and my wife sleeps on the couch as well. Much, no, most of this I will not remember the next morning, and there have been times when I have done or said some ugly shit. Go for it, brother. Don't end up at 60+ as a vet addicted to booze and cigarettes like me. While I'm functional, it still ain't pretty. I just sucked it up and you know me well enough to know that I told a ranger one time to tell his problems to a priest 'cause I had problems of my own and didn't want to deal with his.

Doc

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